I was sitting on my patio this morning with a cup of coffee and talking with my husband. He mentioned to me that we have a huge generation of single moms either living with boyfriends or divorced a few times. “I wonder why that is”
Now, I do not have all of the answers. There are several reasons why a woman is alone. Yet as I sat a moment this thought came to my mind.
“Well, people are looking for something to fill a void in their lives. They are looking for the mate to fulfill those places that only God can fill. It’s deep within us to want to have intimacy. In the garden of Eden before sin entered in, God himself walked with Adam and Eve in an intimacy that goes beyond our human brain’s capacity.” We were speaking of the plight of many women, but it goes the same for men.
When we look at society today and the view society has on long lasting relationships; it is not hard to see that people are looking for something that they are not finding in each other.
We’ve been married for 35 years now. Our marriage has withstood many bumps along the way. I remembered back when I’d been married perhaps 15 years when the Lord sort of shook me up. I had been a needy woman. A wanting woman.
In a world where soap operas are a window to the world for many a housewife I’d become disillusioned as to what a husband’s role actually was. I thought if I found someone who would love me, then I could count on that one person to supply all of my needs and wants. It wasn’t until the Lord spoke through some anointed ministers of God that I became aware that I was looking in the wrong place for the empty places in my heart.
I truly believe that since the fall of man in the garden of Eden, there was created a emptiness in the human soul that only God almighty can fill. We see that emptiness in the people of today as they try to fill it with things money can buy. When they have bought their fill, they seek to buy more because nothing can fill that void with material things.
We see that empty place being filled with drugs, alcohol, and lust of the flesh. Even so, we see it most often when a young person gets married, divorced and still seeking someone to fill that void. I learned a hard lesson years ago when I saw myself expecting my husband to fill that place that only God can fill.
I needed the tenderness, the intimacy and the freedom to be myself without judgement. I needed a full time love connection that knew no boundaries. Yet, it seemed that I expected all of that from the wrong person.
Yet, when I thought of getting all of that love and intimacy from the creator of the universe I balked. How could I believe that someone I could not see would give me what I could not understand myself. I found I did not believe He had that power. Yet, at that same time I found that I could not find it in any human being. No one can fulfill all of my needs and it’s useless to expect it from anyone but the one who created us and knows us best of all. Jesus!