As I walked to the library one day, I ran into a neighbor who wanted to talk. She is a stay at home housewife like me. Her biggest problem is that she doesn't know how to entertain herself. She has a baby and is overwhelmed and restless. I listened as she c/o housework, budgets, poor self esteem. I was reminded of the apostle Paul who spoke to the women of Titus. Titus 2:3-4 says ‘Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.’
She told how her husband worked long hours and left her alone. She told how he was tired and not wanting to help her. Slowly I explained a positive angle and the fun it was to get rid of clutter and make the home a friendly environment while clutter causes stress. [She knows I'm a Christian] Next, the shopping can be a creative fun thing when you look at what you have to spend and work to achieve the most with what you have. I went over a Proverbs 31 woman and how 'Beauty is fading and charm is deceptive but a woman who fears God is worthy to be praised’ I told her of some fun things I used to do with my 2 babies. We discussed how I love to spend a time just to do my hair, make up, nails, etc. Outer beauty. Next, inner beauty. She asked what I meant.
I realized this girl was interested in what I was saying. I explained how God changes us women from the inside out when we look to Him for guidance. She had heard the term of ‘washing with the word’.
As she relaxed she asked me the age old question…’What do you do with your time?’ This time I smiled and explained that I work out my schedule according to what the Lord holds in front of me. Sometimes I’m outdoors with neighbors, sometimes inside cleaning or cooking. I told her of my days as a young mom. ‘That’s the same as what I’m doing. Picking up one mess after another. I gave her some useful tips I’d learned from the ‘Titus women’ in my own life.
‘Above all things, take your troubles to the Lord all during the day. A word here, a sentence there, a cry for help, a thank you and praise throughout the day. Remember to say thank you to your spouse even if he does not deserve it. Be an encourager. It’s a full time job being a housewife and many have given up and went to other places for a fast escape. But I don’t see you as a quitter.’ She smiled at that.
I grinned back at her. ‘I have to warn you, the job changes from moment to moment and some times it’s downright awful, but the rewards are plentiful and the peaces of knowing you are in God’s will never leaves you drained.’
I’ve spoken to this woman many times. I’ve even met her husband. Did I change the world? Nah, I just reiterated what someone else probably all ready told her. Yet, a Godly woman can always be a world changer if she is a God chaser!